The End Is Just The Beginning

The End Is Just The Beginning

Today marks the completion of my personal 21-Day Soul Coaching® Clutter Clearing Quest. I was truly amazed at how deep I went with this program as I am often clearing clutter while in other programs I mentor in or facilitate. I feel if one is always clearing clutter it may be the time to ask where does this clutter come from? Most don’t, yet some people feel good around clutter, they have their stuff and their memories right there in front of them. They can reach out and touch them at any time and hold them. This may bring a certain kind of comfort. And that’s okay. These things are likely objects you love and items you want to keep around. Sometimes having someone come in and help you stage or display them will make a world of difference.

Other times, we have stuff that we have a challenge with letting go… The item may feel like it has a soul, as do many objects, especially ones connected to childhood memories. I know this, as I finally (after years of trying) have let go of my beloved stuffed polar bear Nanook. He has been in the family a very long time and was extra special as he was hand crafted by my Mother about 40 years ago and he is literally loved to peices. He was gifted to my Grandmother, and then passed on to my Dad and it felt like the lineage should continue.

The Mighty Nanook

At one point a year or so back I had thought repairing Nanook was the only option. I had a seamstress sew him up after I had placed all kinds of beautiful healing stones and crystals in him. As I did this, I also set intentions that this healing would go back to my family for generations and generations, to the beginning of time. Yet sadly, Nanook continued to wear away… to disintegrate. The simple truth was he was deteriorating, his sheepskin fur was wearing thin and he was coming apart at the seams. Could this be a metaphor for some area in my life or was this more a symbol of the past and my childhood? I had to ask myself some deep questions and came to the conclusion that if this were actually a living creature, it would now be his special time to transition back to the Universe. With that thought in mind I was able to let him go.

Precious Stones

I gently removed the stones and crystals from Nanook and thanked him for all the times he was there when others were not. I told him how precious his life was, to me and to the others he blessed during his time here. I felt so much gratitude in that moment. I cleansed the stones and put them on a little keepsake bag to dry, soon to be re-purposed by welcoming them to my collection. It’s true that when you are clutter clearing the less you physically hold the object, the easier it will be to allow it to move on. I feel like I have symbolically let go of my childhood. I feel empowered having made the decision after years of wishing I could. I feel lighter, the space is brighter and I trust Nanook will have a marvelous time in a different form. I know his Spirit has moved on to a higher realm and he is happy.

I will continue with my deep inner and outer clutter clearing, as each time I remove and release just a little bit more as I ask myself the Quests’ challenging questions. See, we do what are ready to do; we let go of what we are ready to let go of and if you feel you are ready, you are. Sometimes you may need inspiration, time and organization skills, and sometimes you just need courage and a non-judgemental understanding of the meaning of the object(s). That’s what worked for me.

Blessings galore,

Kelly 

“Where intention goes, energy flows.”

Hidden Clutter As The Quest Continues…

Hidden Clutter As The Quest Continues…

What exactly is hidden clutter? It is all that we keep behind close doors. Sometimes it’s our thoughts and beliefs, sometimes it is physical clutter. It can also be emotional clutter, even Spiritual clutter. The issue with hidden clutter is that even though the doors or cabinets, cupboards and drawers are closed and everything looks alright or perfect from the outside, there is often a mess behind those doors. I love the saying “Your mess is your message!” What is your mess saying to you?

Mental clutter can be cleared by looking where you are at the moment and taking an honest assessment of your life. If we are going anywhere, we need to know where we are, right? Clearing your mental clutter is important, especially if you want to create sacred space in your mind for new thoughts, new beliefs and new behaviours. Yes, you can change your beliefs! First you might want to recognize how the ones that no longer serve you draw unwanted energy you are not looking for into your life. Sometimes your beliefs may be contradicting, again perhaps blocking you from moving forward and being all you can be.

Emotional clutter wants to be felt, to be honoured and truly, it does want us to release it, so both the energy and our lives can move forward. Releasing items with love is a great practice to consider. After all, things come in to our life for a reason, a season, but not always a lifetime. We can choose what we want to let go of and what we want to keep. Our souls love Clutter Clearing at all levels.

Spiritual clutter exists when you grow up in an environment where you were taught what to believe. Honoured traditions are beautiful and should be respected, yet as your own life is lived, you find some aspects may not be working for you and you may want to let go of some traditions, some beliefs and explore or embrace another spiritual practice. Perhaps you would like to create your own ceremonies and rituals and daily practices that truly feed your soul?

Do you have clutter in your life? Image by Kelly Chamchuk

Physical clutter means something too. It means you either have too much stuff, nowhere to put it, a system not in place to manage what is needed, guilt to keep something someone has given you that you may find challenging to surrender plus an array of other feelings, emotions and beliefs. So over time, that clutter builds up and up and up. Perhaps you feel you do not have time with all else that is going on in your life?

So, what CAN you do? You can begin. That’s it, just begin. Start small by clearing out for 10-15 minutes per day or create a list of spaces you wish to clear and ensure you jot down when you will do them. Give yourself more time than you think you need, so you can actually accomplish the task. Too often we believe it can be done much quicker than it takes leaving ourselves disappointed and frustrated. Committing to the process will help you get it done! So will making it enjoyable for yourself. Invite the family or a good friend to assist, hire a coach who knows about working with clutter and make it FUN!

Turn on some music that really stirs your soul, grab a glass of your favourite bevy, and make a plan. Know what you are going to do in advance. Envision it done and how you will approach the project. When you can see it in your mind’s eye, you can do it! Get your trash bags, your donation bin, even your ‘for sale’ bin for collectible items or valuables that you would like to put online or for your upcoming garage sale. Choose the time you will begin your cleaning and go for it. Get that shredder revved!

Then focus on how wonderful the space will feel once cleared. Invite those long repressed feelings to surface as you clear!  Really feel and embrace your feelings… and if by chance some tears fall, some belly laughter or the odd shiver or two occurs, trust that what you are doing is for your best future possible and give your soul the time it needs to process those feelings. No bashing is invited to this party! Let those emotions bubble up and out; what is important is that you are clearing them, you don’t even really have to consciously know what they are about. It’s okay. You are doing great!

 

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Imagine the fresh and clear feeling! Image by Kelly Chamchuk

 

In smaller or confined spaces, I suggest taking everything that is moveable out, then only bring back in what you love, use and really need. Ask yourself some questions as you edit each item;

When was the last time I used this?

Is this item in good repair?

When can I see myself using it again?

Has this objects’ time in my life expired?

Do I experience positive memories in association to this?

Where else could this item go to be cherished by another?

Is the right space for this item?

I like to clear the space energetically and set intentions prior to arranging the objects back in to their space. I used Frangipani incense plus a tea light candle conducive to the more relaxed, calm and peaceful atmosphere I imagined for this tiny office space.

Organization is key to keeping the space maintained and clutter free after your clearing. Ensure there is a space for everything and everything in it’s space. Before you bring something new in, ask yourself if there are two items you can remove to make space for it? Labelling wires or colour coding them to your devices is a great method of keeping them organized. There is tuly no need to hang on to them unless you use the associated device. Ensure that old equipment such as computers, lap tops, cell phones have your information cleared by someone in the know before you recycle. For this clearing project, I felt the lighting was poor and it felt dark and dingy so I added a set of lights under one shelf, will use a black felt marker to cover the cord, and ensured there was a spot for everything. The boxes are all label clearly, containing all objects in the same category for easy access. All items such as Birthday and Thank You cards are all in one box, another will have Camera equipment, charger, filters, and all items pertaining to that. Various papers are stacked for easy access.

Everything in it’s place… Image by Kelly Chamchuk

 

Space clearing the area once your clutter is cleared is a lovely practice to welcome in the new energy. Depending on what physical area you cleared, you may want to add fresh flowers, burn some incense, smudge the area with sage or even give it a nice spray of your favourite essence. For this project, I arranged a simple Buddha, a tea light candle and some crystal points; all  items I love to create a Mini-Altar. Once your own project is complete, spend a few moments with your fresh clean space feeling gratitude and imagine beautiful white light beaming in to you, then out to your space.

 

Once all the clearing is done and complete. Celebrate! Take a lovely epsom salt bath with your favourite essential oils in it and imagine that all you cleared comes out of your body and flows lovingly down the drain to be brought back to you in amazing ways. You will feel so much lighter, more organized and the bonus is you are creating sacred space for the new to arrive! What is it you would welcome in to your life at this time?

“Where intention goes, energy flows.”

 

ForGIFTness; One of the Greatest Gifts of All

ForGIFTness; One of the Greatest Gifts of All

Forgiveness comes in many packages but always from the Heart.  ~  Image by Kelly Chamchuk

Today I woke up with a long ‘to do’ list and at the top of that list was forgiveness. ForGIFTness. That was the word that came to mind. Because the other thing on my mind recently has been family photos after seeing so many beautiful photos pop up on Facebook posted by Friends; photos of them as young child with Santa, photos of them in their teens, in ‘Throwback Thursday” and so many beauty-filled images of families together or loved ones past that they are choosing to honor during this special Holiday Season and Christmas Time.

The top of my ForGIFT list is my youngest brother who shortly after my Fathers passing decided to destroy all the families photos my Dad had so neatly categorized for each of us and stored in his lower dresser drawer knowing this day would come. My outrage was not only for him intentionally destroying this lifetime of family history but also because I saw the packages there the day prior and decided to wait till tomorrow to gather them up and hold them as precious. Something was screaming at me to do so, my intuition, my soul; yet I choose not to listen because of the duties of the day and the rest of the clutter clearing I was involved in to prepare the home to be sold. Timing was everything and I learned that ‘lesson’ that hard way as I do most things in this lifetime.

Imagine my surprise coming back the next day and seeing the drawer completely empty and when asking my youngest brother where the photos were, hearing the simple emotionless reply “Gone.” I had no choice but to remain super calm even though my rage was burning through me like a wild woman; “Gone where?” I questioned hoping they were only relocated to another area but fearing the worst as his behavior at the time was erratic and unpredictable at best.  I still cannot recall his exact words but they were either ‘burned’ or ‘taken to the dump’ or both. I do recall it being an act driven from Anger and recall thinking how much he must hate what this represents; family, childhood, self, us, for him to not only destroy his package but all of ours too.

One of the greatest and most powerful healing tools ever is FORGIVENESS; what I am now calling ‘ForGIFTness.’ It is truly the greatest gift you can give yourself. It brings peace where there was once rage, calm where there was once chaos and where there was once hate, you can replace it with another great healer – Love.

What I usually do is get outside of myself and use empathy, compassion and understanding for the other person and try to see where they were coming from. What was he feeling that made him do such a harsh act? How angry and deeply grieving was he to lash out in this particularly symbolic way? Was he in total shock or had he snapped in to some Psychotic state? My love for my brother overshadowed all else and even though I felt so much anger, what won was the love. Yes, I was extremely angry, actually in a state of rage, but I saw a fear in him that was way bigger than us both and choose in that moment to let it go. I forgave him.

Yet something did stay with me all these years… I miss those photos terribly. I yearn for them. I want to look at those images. I want to see myself as a child and see my family when we were together and young and happy.  And I cannot. I noticed that although I am no longer holding any blame towards my brother I am however holding blame towards my self.

Today what I need to let go of is that I didn’t trust myself enough to grab those images in time. I did not listen to my self and my guidance.  Today my forGIFTness is aimed towards me. I choose to believe that I managed the best I could at that most challenging time under very stressful circumstances.  I was reminded of so much in that moment; you cannot control others, hold near what is precious to you, don’t put off till tomorrow what you can do today, love trumps anger, things are just things, and it is okay to let go.

So, how do you forgive? Great question asked by many and here are some things you can do for any people you are gifting this to including your SELF.

  • Realize that your hate or anger does not affect the other person; it only affects you and may even manifest itself in physical symptoms and likely will affect your life, your relationships, even your career and all you do. Anger and revenge are like poison in our systems.
  • Notice if you are the type of person who seeks revenge. Revenge is all about getting even. Find your peace in that there is no ‘even’ and that life is not always fair; lessons come to us for us to learn from them. Acting out towards another is again only harming yourself. Choose to be happy instead, choose peace instead.
  • Make a list of what you did learn, or what good came from it, however painful the incident or event was, there is a ‘positive spin’ you can put on it. Bottom line, you are here and alive and even if there is much work yet to be done, that’s a great start. You are precious. Be gentle on yourself and give yourself all the time you need for healing to occur.
  • Allow yourself the time to completely embrace all of the emotions you are feeling, even the ones we refer to as negative; they are just emotions and they are yours so therefore they are valid and should be honored. Once you allow them to bubble up, you can release them and be free of them. You do not have to agree with or condone hurtful acts, just feel how they affect(ed) you, feel the places in your body where you hold the emotions and let them go, then send in some soothing white light and sparkles to fill the space.
  • Send warm blessings to all involved so they too can experience peace, calm and forgiveness. All of this can be done ‘privately’ – there is no need to involve the other person(s) in your forgiveness unless you feel you want to and it is safe for you to do so. This is an exercise in grace purely for you.
  • If you are a person who seeks forgiveness from others for something you may have done or caused, all you can do is ask. Be genuine in your request and speak from your heart focusing on your concern of what harm may have been caused to the other person(s) involved. You may not always receive forgiveness when you ask for it as others too need their time to heal but you CAN forgive yourself and become a wiser more loving person at any given time.

Who is on your ‘ForGIFT’ list this year? Give them and your Self the best gift ever. The gift of Forgiveness, one of the greatest gifts of all.

In luminescence and Love,

 

Old Habits Die Hard, Even Miracle Boxes!

Old Habits Die Hard, Even Miracle Boxes!

“Old habits die hard.” What does that really mean? That engrained habits take a long time to reverse? That the ‘death’ of them is hard to handle? Change is difficult? Really? Is it? Or is that a perception we have come to believe in circumstances where we do not care for the change? What about when we love the change, is it difficult then? Hmmm, huh? Maybe it’s the word ‘change’ itself that could use changing! I personally like to use the words transform or evolve.

Yet when we seek the truth in this or any other saying for ourselves we can actually find our own blockages, connect with our beliefs and then bring them in to alignment with where we are currently in our life.

I get all excited about New Years! It may be the Scorpio in me, but I love transformation, new vibrant energy and a ‘clean slate.’ Yet, we are human BE-ings after-all and we do have our human ways… it is human to fall back to the old way; the habitual method of doing something while we are evolving. The important thing to remember is that each time you fall down, you get up again! That is how we all learned to walk and we did experience a few bumps ‘n bruises along with all those pleasures of crawling, walking then running, and even jogging for those more adventurous and able!

One of my habits is keeping a “Miracle Box’ which is a box where I enter my wishes, desires; yes, and even my lottery tickets in to. It is a beautiful wooden box and on the inside it’s covered with pink heart-shaped post-it’s saying ‘thank you’ as my message of gratitude to the Universe. I went to “clutter clear’ it the other day as I do each year at this time and found a note from back in 2007 with a long list of qualities that I wanted to bring in to my life. I had kept that particular list in the box as a few items were still ‘missing.’ I reached in, removed it and the box was empty. I sat there and just looked into the hollow space for a few moments and slowly began to smile. I realized it felt GREAT! I blew a few dust bunnies from the corners and wondered what if I just left it this way? Empty? Not asking for anything, now THAT would be different, that would be ‘change,’ that would be ‘evolving’ and I felt super excited at all the possibilities… ahhh, the unknown… the vastness out there waiting for me!

Perhaps you are way ahead of me in your search for enlightenment, empowerment and personal growth, right by my side or at another point in your journey; to me, this is all exciting… whether you are new to learning about Vision Boards, Soul Collages and Miracles Boxes for the first time or have been doing it for years; there is always opportunity to create change, to transform and to evolve.

You may set New Year’s Resolutions or be ready for Real SOUL-utions; it is up to you of course. How are they different? In a resolution, one resolves to make a change and sets out with or sometimes even without a realistic, achievable, measurable, long or short term goal… has or maybe does not have an action plan; a deadline, an accountability factor and usually tends to go full force soon running out of gusto leaving themselves feeling defeated.

A Real SOUL-ution is where one takes the time to follow a proven process to explore deep within, make a commitment to themselves that will be kept (no matter what size, but beginning with what works for them) learns about the art and power of intention, discovers thru daily lessons, affirmations and guided meditations tools that last an entire lifetime; tools that empower you in all areas of life, while connecting with you with your passions, discovering your purpose while having fun with creative projects exploring the art and science of manifesting. All this while being gentle on yourself, knowing who you are is enough and infusing your soul with love and acceptance.

There is something that lights up in my soul when I see a spark go off in a person; a little ‘ah-ha’ of recognition that brings them some knowing, realizing, growing, loving and just plain Spiritual evolving!

My ‘Miracle Box’ may remain ‘empty’ for this coming year as a trial to myself to evolve from old habits, invite the Universe to bring in things I may never even have considered and to challenge even a good habit once in a while!

My challenge to you is find one old habit that you are willing to explore, create some transformation and “glow for it!”

Happy New Year to you all!!! May your life be filled with love, peace, harmony, happiness, gratitude, health, grace and even more than you could ever desire!

In luminescence and Love,

Turning Scared Into Sacred

Turning Scared Into Sacred

What our body experiences when it’s in a state of fear is similar to what it experiences when it’s in a state of excitement; what differs is the label that our brain puts on it. When we’re up against something that scares us we instinctively respond by going into a state of fight or flight. I’d like to add to another option to that… Fight, flight or freeze!

I am a freezer, have been for a while… I do nothing! Sometimes I can’t even verbalize what I am feeling as even my voice freezes; my feelings freeze, my senses freeze, and I shut down. I get the ‘deer in the headlights’ look even as I see ‘something’ coming straight towards me.

Since I’m a lover not a fighter, fighting is not an option and deep down I know that running away is not the answer either so I just collapse, I go deep, I ‘do dark.’ I shut my eyes and make it all disappear. What really happens is that I disappear, everything else remains the same. My monkey mind takes control and out comes the hamster wheel so around and around I go until one day my heart once again speaks up and says “Hello? Remember me?”

Then from the deep dark hollow pit that I created and encouraged to swallow my self up, I must rise again; climbing… like hiking on mud in a rainstorm, grasping at the ever failing foundation with every ounce of energy I have until once again I make it out. Have I ever thought about asking for help along the way? Not really. Maybe someone could have handed me a ladder or thrown me a rope or perhaps shone their flashlight on my path just for a moment. Maybe I would have accepted their assistance? Maybe?

I know Mother Nature is always there for me, so I bask in the beauty of the stars and the moon and feel the warmth from the sun and allow her to nurture me so I connect with her often. She speaks to me and gives me important signs and signals, yet I notice something deep inside still crying. Beginning as a whisper, a little one; a gentle one, I could quiet it with a piece of chocolate or a glass of wine or two or three. It sure wants to be heard; it shows me pictures in my mind and puts songs on the radio and tells me stories in my dreams but now is screaming “You WILL hear me!”

“Who are you?” I finally asked.
“I am your soul,” she replied.
“What do you want,” I really wanted to know.
“I want to be loved by you and one other,” she stated softly.
“That’s it?” I asked wondering if it could be that easy.
“That is IT, and don’t think for a minute that it is going to be easy! There are things that
you must learn first,” she said wisely.

“Oh great,” I thought, “now what?”
She answered, “You recognize Fight, Flight and Freeze but you have yet to recognize the
most powerful healer of all – Face!”

“I cannot imagine…” I began.

She stopped me sarcastically saying “I know!” She continued with, “Everything the Universe will bring you now will be to teach you… just as it has always been, but this time – you will know of the lesson in advance. There will be many choices and we know you don’t like them either, yet you WILL make them. Do not label them with your good and bad; that is not what matters here. What matters is that you are moving forward, thawing the ice in your heart so you can get back into the joyous flow of life!”

She kept on speaking; “To be scared is to be scar-ed dear one. Each fright leaves a scar on me and on you – the physical garment the holds me. It is best for us both that you invest in your self – learn to face these things that frighten you, face these things you call fear.” She paused for only a moment then whispered, “Are you ready to be un-scared? Ask your self, if not now, when? In one week, in a month, in a year, in another lifetime? Decide when, decide now and when you are ready, let me know.”

Oh, it all sounds good on paper, I thought as I imagined myself in a year from now, two years from now and then at the end of this life. There were a lot of blank spaces that could have been filled in… “So how do I face my fears?” I bravely yet not so bravely asked the wise one.

This is what she said:

“Know that you have the WILL in you, each and every one of you is born with it. It is time to invest in your self. Know that a fear named is a fear tamed so name it dear one and make it as comical as you can; if you can laugh at it, you are half way there. Ask yourself what is the worst case scenario and if you could live with that, and knowing you, you likely have already lived with much worse, oh and in case you fear death – you have already lived through that too and look at you now! What is the best case scenario? How does that feel? Hold on to that for a few minutes, maybe just a few minutes more… Does this make it feel any less scary? Then just keep on doing this until all of this what you call fear is gone, and trust me, something better will take its place. It will be something strong, something noble and something sacred.”

The word sacred comes from the Latin word sacrum, referring to the Gods or anything in their power. Be in your power. Make the decision to FACE your fears. Live sacred.

Love,