Clearing Mental Clutter

Clearing Mental Clutter

There is potential for a lot of uncertainty in our lives right now; and it can cause us to get out of balance very quickly leaving us feeling fatigued, unfocused, preoccupied and may even move us from a state of love into a state of fear. There are things that we can control in life and things that we cannot; I encourage us all to focus on what we CAN do.

Our racing thoughts, limiting beliefs we have about our own power, lack of focus, lack of concentration, worrying all the time, and the uncertainty can be draining. We can become stuck in our mindset, not open to others viewpoints, values or beliefs. This could leave us feeling trapped and block the healthy natural flow of life force energy.

In Soul Coaching® we refer to this as Mental/Intellectual Clutter. For inspiration, mental clarity, freedom, perception, communion, and communication we practice embracing the Spirit of Air to assist in clearing these cobwebs of the mind giving us better capacity to discern, analyze, evaluate, and judge. The Element of Air also allows us to see situations from a higher perspective, like a birds eye view of life and what is occurring around and within.

“Though seemingly subtle and unseen, Air is composed of the most rarified energy fields, and we are in constant communion with the vast universe through our breath. With every breath you take, you are inhaling air that has been in every nook and cranny of our world, from the dry region of the Sahara, to the heights of the Himalayas, to the lush and humid Amazon rain forests. The breath that you just took contained at least four hundred thousand of the same argon atoms that Gandhi breathed throughout his life. The air that you are breathing now has been in me, and the breath that I am taking now has been in you.” ~ Denise Linn

10 Ways to Align With the Spirit of Air and Clear Mental Clutter

  • Become aware of the air around you, the winds on your face; feel how it touches you face, your skin. Spend time in your day focusing on your breathing. Take deep breaths and hold them, then release pushing all the air from your lungs. Check in with your breath throughout the day, see if you are holding it due to stress, or breathing at a natural pace and flow.
  • Spend 15-20 minutes in the meditation practice of your choice. Just observe your thoughts without telling need to fix or change anything.
  • Make one commitment to create positive change, something you can keep and maintain by blending it gently into your lifestyle.
  • Become aware of your thoughts, observe the words you choose to use; they both hold powerful energy and can be changed to ones with higher vibrations.
  • Examine your core beliefs; see if these are really who you are now, or have been engineered by others over your lifetime.
  • Schedule time each day to relax and unwind preferably in a space that feels sacred to you.
  • Limit the use of all electronics at least one hour prior to bed; choose to read an inspirational book or listen to soothing music while soaking in an essential oil and Epsom salt bath instead.
  • Journal your thoughts and cares away and/or create a Bedside Altar to place your prayers each evening, recharge your jewelry or malas, or place an inspirational card to focus on as your drift off to sleep.
  • Turn down and soften the lighting in your space. Create a lovely ringtone for your phone alarm so you wake up gently in the morning. Give yourself enough time so you don’t feel rushed.
  • Create a morning routine to carry you through the day; breathing, yoga, gentle stretching, writing about your dreams or any other activity that keeps you feeling connected to your soul and the beautiful and gracious divine source within.

When we invest the time to really observe our thoughts, values and beliefs, we begin to know ourselves at a deep level then begin to attract others who feel the same. We can also observe others while still respecting that they too have values, beliefs and thoughts that may differ from our own. From there we can find common ground on which to build healthy relationships, vibrant communities and even global harmony.

Let go with love.

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The End Is Just The Beginning

The End Is Just The Beginning

Today marks the completion of my personal 21-Day Soul Coaching® Clutter Clearing Quest. I was truly amazed at how deep I went with this program as I am often clearing clutter while in other programs I mentor in or facilitate. I feel if one is always clearing clutter it may be the time to ask where does this clutter come from? Most don’t, yet some people feel good around clutter, they have their stuff and their memories right there in front of them. They can reach out and touch them at any time and hold them. This may bring a certain kind of comfort. And that’s okay. These things are likely objects you love and items you want to keep around. Sometimes having someone come in and help you stage or display them will make a world of difference.

Other times, we have stuff that we have a challenge with letting go… The item may feel like it has a soul, as do many objects, especially ones connected to childhood memories. I know this, as I finally (after years of trying) have let go of my beloved stuffed polar bear Nanook. He has been in the family a very long time and was extra special as he was hand crafted by my Mother about 40 years ago and he is literally loved to peices. He was gifted to my Grandmother, and then passed on to my Dad and it felt like the lineage should continue.

The Mighty Nanook

At one point a year or so back I had thought repairing Nanook was the only option. I had a seamstress sew him up after I had placed all kinds of beautiful healing stones and crystals in him. As I did this, I also set intentions that this healing would go back to my family for generations and generations, to the beginning of time. Yet sadly, Nanook continued to wear away… to disintegrate. The simple truth was he was deteriorating, his sheepskin fur was wearing thin and he was coming apart at the seams. Could this be a metaphor for some area in my life or was this more a symbol of the past and my childhood? I had to ask myself some deep questions and came to the conclusion that if this were actually a living creature, it would now be his special time to transition back to the Universe. With that thought in mind I was able to let him go.

Precious Stones

I gently removed the stones and crystals from Nanook and thanked him for all the times he was there when others were not. I told him how precious his life was, to me and to the others he blessed during his time here. I felt so much gratitude in that moment. I cleansed the stones and put them on a little keepsake bag to dry, soon to be re-purposed by welcoming them to my collection. It’s true that when you are clutter clearing the less you physically hold the object, the easier it will be to allow it to move on. I feel like I have symbolically let go of my childhood. I feel empowered having made the decision after years of wishing I could. I feel lighter, the space is brighter and I trust Nanook will have a marvelous time in a different form. I know his Spirit has moved on to a higher realm and he is happy.

I will continue with my deep inner and outer clutter clearing, as each time I remove and release just a little bit more as I ask myself the Quests’ challenging questions. See, we do what are ready to do; we let go of what we are ready to let go of and if you feel you are ready, you are. Sometimes you may need inspiration, time and organization skills, and sometimes you just need courage and a non-judgemental understanding of the meaning of the object(s). That’s what worked for me.

Blessings galore,

Kelly 

“Where intention goes, energy flows.”

Hidden Clutter As The Quest Continues…

Hidden Clutter As The Quest Continues…

What exactly is hidden clutter? It is all that we keep behind close doors. Sometimes it’s our thoughts and beliefs, sometimes it is physical clutter. It can also be emotional clutter, even Spiritual clutter. The issue with hidden clutter is that even though the doors or cabinets, cupboards and drawers are closed and everything looks alright or perfect from the outside, there is often a mess behind those doors. I love the saying “Your mess is your message!” What is your mess saying to you?

Mental clutter can be cleared by looking where you are at the moment and taking an honest assessment of your life. If we are going anywhere, we need to know where we are, right? Clearing your mental clutter is important, especially if you want to create sacred space in your mind for new thoughts, new beliefs and new behaviours. Yes, you can change your beliefs! First you might want to recognize how the ones that no longer serve you draw unwanted energy you are not looking for into your life. Sometimes your beliefs may be contradicting, again perhaps blocking you from moving forward and being all you can be.

Emotional clutter wants to be felt, to be honoured and truly, it does want us to release it, so both the energy and our lives can move forward. Releasing items with love is a great practice to consider. After all, things come in to our life for a reason, a season, but not always a lifetime. We can choose what we want to let go of and what we want to keep. Our souls love Clutter Clearing at all levels.

Spiritual clutter exists when you grow up in an environment where you were taught what to believe. Honoured traditions are beautiful and should be respected, yet as your own life is lived, you find some aspects may not be working for you and you may want to let go of some traditions, some beliefs and explore or embrace another spiritual practice. Perhaps you would like to create your own ceremonies and rituals and daily practices that truly feed your soul?

Do you have clutter in your life? Image by Kelly Chamchuk

Physical clutter means something too. It means you either have too much stuff, nowhere to put it, a system not in place to manage what is needed, guilt to keep something someone has given you that you may find challenging to surrender plus an array of other feelings, emotions and beliefs. So over time, that clutter builds up and up and up. Perhaps you feel you do not have time with all else that is going on in your life?

So, what CAN you do? You can begin. That’s it, just begin. Start small by clearing out for 10-15 minutes per day or create a list of spaces you wish to clear and ensure you jot down when you will do them. Give yourself more time than you think you need, so you can actually accomplish the task. Too often we believe it can be done much quicker than it takes leaving ourselves disappointed and frustrated. Committing to the process will help you get it done! So will making it enjoyable for yourself. Invite the family or a good friend to assist, hire a coach who knows about working with clutter and make it FUN!

Turn on some music that really stirs your soul, grab a glass of your favourite bevy, and make a plan. Know what you are going to do in advance. Envision it done and how you will approach the project. When you can see it in your mind’s eye, you can do it! Get your trash bags, your donation bin, even your ‘for sale’ bin for collectible items or valuables that you would like to put online or for your upcoming garage sale. Choose the time you will begin your cleaning and go for it. Get that shredder revved!

Then focus on how wonderful the space will feel once cleared. Invite those long repressed feelings to surface as you clear!  Really feel and embrace your feelings… and if by chance some tears fall, some belly laughter or the odd shiver or two occurs, trust that what you are doing is for your best future possible and give your soul the time it needs to process those feelings. No bashing is invited to this party! Let those emotions bubble up and out; what is important is that you are clearing them, you don’t even really have to consciously know what they are about. It’s okay. You are doing great!

 

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Imagine the fresh and clear feeling! Image by Kelly Chamchuk

 

In smaller or confined spaces, I suggest taking everything that is moveable out, then only bring back in what you love, use and really need. Ask yourself some questions as you edit each item;

When was the last time I used this?

Is this item in good repair?

When can I see myself using it again?

Has this objects’ time in my life expired?

Do I experience positive memories in association to this?

Where else could this item go to be cherished by another?

Is the right space for this item?

I like to clear the space energetically and set intentions prior to arranging the objects back in to their space. I used Frangipani incense plus a tea light candle conducive to the more relaxed, calm and peaceful atmosphere I imagined for this tiny office space.

Organization is key to keeping the space maintained and clutter free after your clearing. Ensure there is a space for everything and everything in it’s space. Before you bring something new in, ask yourself if there are two items you can remove to make space for it? Labelling wires or colour coding them to your devices is a great method of keeping them organized. There is tuly no need to hang on to them unless you use the associated device. Ensure that old equipment such as computers, lap tops, cell phones have your information cleared by someone in the know before you recycle. For this clearing project, I felt the lighting was poor and it felt dark and dingy so I added a set of lights under one shelf, will use a black felt marker to cover the cord, and ensured there was a spot for everything. The boxes are all label clearly, containing all objects in the same category for easy access. All items such as Birthday and Thank You cards are all in one box, another will have Camera equipment, charger, filters, and all items pertaining to that. Various papers are stacked for easy access.

Everything in it’s place… Image by Kelly Chamchuk

 

Space clearing the area once your clutter is cleared is a lovely practice to welcome in the new energy. Depending on what physical area you cleared, you may want to add fresh flowers, burn some incense, smudge the area with sage or even give it a nice spray of your favourite essence. For this project, I arranged a simple Buddha, a tea light candle and some crystal points; all  items I love to create a Mini-Altar. Once your own project is complete, spend a few moments with your fresh clean space feeling gratitude and imagine beautiful white light beaming in to you, then out to your space.

 

Once all the clearing is done and complete. Celebrate! Take a lovely epsom salt bath with your favourite essential oils in it and imagine that all you cleared comes out of your body and flows lovingly down the drain to be brought back to you in amazing ways. You will feel so much lighter, more organized and the bonus is you are creating sacred space for the new to arrive! What is it you would welcome in to your life at this time?

“Where intention goes, energy flows.”

 

Soul Coaching® Clutter Clearing Quest

Soul Coaching® Clutter Clearing Quest

Clutter in one’s life appears in many forms. Clutter is unhealthy for us as it blocks CHI (energy) from coming in to our lives. People begin to feel unorganized, unfocused and a lack of clarity for the future when surrounded by clutter. How does clutter appear in your life? For me, it is in the form of paper! I have endless ideas and thoughts and love taking notes when attending workshops. There is just something about writing with a pen on paper that feeds my soul.

Yet, even items that fed our soul at one time in our life, may not be what we currently need and are certainly not helping to manifest our future desires unless we love them, use them or really need them. My journals did not fit in to those categories any longer. I knew I had to clear them, and I had to honour the past and find a loving way to let go. I also knew there was some wisdom in those pages that I wanted to keep for future writings and so this 21 Day Soul Coaching® Clutter Clearing Quest began…

Journals Before

I often suggest to clients to take a before photo to keep them motivated and focused on their project. Focus on the feeling of having it done! It is also a wonderful idea to decide when you are going to achieve this and determine how long you will work at your project and I decided to give myself one whole week to get ‘er done. Now, usually… I am one who feels it all should be complete in one giant swoop (and have in the past been so disappointed by my failure to achieve results with that belief.) As I teach, I also learn and grow and have discovered the productive experience of pacing.’With pacing, you can get it done, have some enjoyment along the way and not burn yourself out in the process.

These three bags of notes and journals were blocking the floor in my bedroom closet. Now, for me this is the energy of Family on the energy map in Feng Shui called a Bagua. When the energy is blocked in this area, one may feel disconnected from Family, Community, and other influences from the past and I was feeling this deeply.

I was working on letting go of the past and manifesting the future of my dreams which included feeling closer to my Family, being connected with my Community plus inviting future possibilities and opportunities in to my life! This trapped energy felt heavy, made me tired just to look at it, plus it made it challenging to get my clothes out of the closet which meant my washer, dryer, shower curtain rod and chairs became my new closet. Not so inviting for others who came to my home but most importantly, not the energy I wanted to have in my space. Clutter can snowball into others areas of your life. So look for the root cause of your clutter!

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When I began, I held each journal to my heart, thanked it, and flipped through them recalling that period of my life. I had pages that jumped out at me with little tidbits of wisdom or mentioning books, movies and people to research in the future. It’s funny how often we write something down and never look back it for reference. This occurs about 80% of the time! I felt the need to carry this project even further by keeping only those pages or parts of the pages I wanted for future writings and shred the rest. I was so glad I gave myself the week to accomplish this task as now I had to get an accordion file, and divide these pages into categories then file them appropriately!

Then the shredding began. There is something so cathartic about this process, especially when intentions are used. With each and every page (sometimes up to about 8 at a time as that was the limit of my shredder) I fed it and fed it, feeling lighter and lighter as I progressed. At times the feeder would jam and I would look at what the page said and laugh. It seemed the Universe was working me and sometimes gave me a little extra to pay attention to before I really let go of it. I examined some beliefs, some memories, and explored a whole bunch of various feelings. I smiled, I cried, I laughed, I got angry, I bashed, I blamed… Then I would take a deep breath and forgive myself, honour that part of my life, cherish the memories and all those lessons I had experienced along the way.

Taking the binder and coiled covers to the trash and dumping the shredded paper in the recycle bin was also moving and profound. I pay attention to signs along the way and for me this realization meant so much. Some things will be permanently gone from my life yet the wisdom that something discarded could be transformed into something even better, perhaps cherished, loved and used in the future was such a pleasant way to complete this task.

Thank you for reading! Stay tuned as the Quest continues…

What area of your home or life is your clutter blocking?

What does it feel like?

What would you feel when it gets removed?

How will your life be better?

“Where intention goes, energy flows.”

ForGIFTness; One of the Greatest Gifts of All

ForGIFTness; One of the Greatest Gifts of All

Forgiveness comes in many packages but always from the Heart.  ~  Image by Kelly Chamchuk

Today I woke up with a long ‘to do’ list and at the top of that list was forgiveness. ForGIFTness. That was the word that came to mind. Because the other thing on my mind recently has been family photos after seeing so many beautiful photos pop up on Facebook posted by Friends; photos of them as young child with Santa, photos of them in their teens, in ‘Throwback Thursday” and so many beauty-filled images of families together or loved ones past that they are choosing to honor during this special Holiday Season and Christmas Time.

The top of my ForGIFT list is my youngest brother who shortly after my Fathers passing decided to destroy all the families photos my Dad had so neatly categorized for each of us and stored in his lower dresser drawer knowing this day would come. My outrage was not only for him intentionally destroying this lifetime of family history but also because I saw the packages there the day prior and decided to wait till tomorrow to gather them up and hold them as precious. Something was screaming at me to do so, my intuition, my soul; yet I choose not to listen because of the duties of the day and the rest of the clutter clearing I was involved in to prepare the home to be sold. Timing was everything and I learned that ‘lesson’ that hard way as I do most things in this lifetime.

Imagine my surprise coming back the next day and seeing the drawer completely empty and when asking my youngest brother where the photos were, hearing the simple emotionless reply “Gone.” I had no choice but to remain super calm even though my rage was burning through me like a wild woman; “Gone where?” I questioned hoping they were only relocated to another area but fearing the worst as his behavior at the time was erratic and unpredictable at best.  I still cannot recall his exact words but they were either ‘burned’ or ‘taken to the dump’ or both. I do recall it being an act driven from Anger and recall thinking how much he must hate what this represents; family, childhood, self, us, for him to not only destroy his package but all of ours too.

One of the greatest and most powerful healing tools ever is FORGIVENESS; what I am now calling ‘ForGIFTness.’ It is truly the greatest gift you can give yourself. It brings peace where there was once rage, calm where there was once chaos and where there was once hate, you can replace it with another great healer – Love.

What I usually do is get outside of myself and use empathy, compassion and understanding for the other person and try to see where they were coming from. What was he feeling that made him do such a harsh act? How angry and deeply grieving was he to lash out in this particularly symbolic way? Was he in total shock or had he snapped in to some Psychotic state? My love for my brother overshadowed all else and even though I felt so much anger, what won was the love. Yes, I was extremely angry, actually in a state of rage, but I saw a fear in him that was way bigger than us both and choose in that moment to let it go. I forgave him.

Yet something did stay with me all these years… I miss those photos terribly. I yearn for them. I want to look at those images. I want to see myself as a child and see my family when we were together and young and happy.  And I cannot. I noticed that although I am no longer holding any blame towards my brother I am however holding blame towards my self.

Today what I need to let go of is that I didn’t trust myself enough to grab those images in time. I did not listen to my self and my guidance.  Today my forGIFTness is aimed towards me. I choose to believe that I managed the best I could at that most challenging time under very stressful circumstances.  I was reminded of so much in that moment; you cannot control others, hold near what is precious to you, don’t put off till tomorrow what you can do today, love trumps anger, things are just things, and it is okay to let go.

So, how do you forgive? Great question asked by many and here are some things you can do for any people you are gifting this to including your SELF.

  • Realize that your hate or anger does not affect the other person; it only affects you and may even manifest itself in physical symptoms and likely will affect your life, your relationships, even your career and all you do. Anger and revenge are like poison in our systems.
  • Notice if you are the type of person who seeks revenge. Revenge is all about getting even. Find your peace in that there is no ‘even’ and that life is not always fair; lessons come to us for us to learn from them. Acting out towards another is again only harming yourself. Choose to be happy instead, choose peace instead.
  • Make a list of what you did learn, or what good came from it, however painful the incident or event was, there is a ‘positive spin’ you can put on it. Bottom line, you are here and alive and even if there is much work yet to be done, that’s a great start. You are precious. Be gentle on yourself and give yourself all the time you need for healing to occur.
  • Allow yourself the time to completely embrace all of the emotions you are feeling, even the ones we refer to as negative; they are just emotions and they are yours so therefore they are valid and should be honored. Once you allow them to bubble up, you can release them and be free of them. You do not have to agree with or condone hurtful acts, just feel how they affect(ed) you, feel the places in your body where you hold the emotions and let them go, then send in some soothing white light and sparkles to fill the space.
  • Send warm blessings to all involved so they too can experience peace, calm and forgiveness. All of this can be done ‘privately’ – there is no need to involve the other person(s) in your forgiveness unless you feel you want to and it is safe for you to do so. This is an exercise in grace purely for you.
  • If you are a person who seeks forgiveness from others for something you may have done or caused, all you can do is ask. Be genuine in your request and speak from your heart focusing on your concern of what harm may have been caused to the other person(s) involved. You may not always receive forgiveness when you ask for it as others too need their time to heal but you CAN forgive yourself and become a wiser more loving person at any given time.

Who is on your ‘ForGIFT’ list this year? Give them and your Self the best gift ever. The gift of Forgiveness, one of the greatest gifts of all.

In luminescence and Love,